Why do you really want to lose weight?

As Valentine’s day approaches, past memories about this time of  year come to mind. It doesn’t seem long since the Christmas tree was take down, not to mind put up. Still, we now find ourselves coming into the first big shopping fest of the year. Of course, there have been the January sales but that was really only a shop for what was best available on the rack at the lowest price.

As the special time of Valentine’s rolls around each year, couples everywhere are shopping with real intent and the price tag doesn’t seem to matter as long as the adoring acceptance of traded gifts motivates the traditional signs of fondness. This affection inevitably summons the customary romantic evening meal and bottle of red.

Yet, that’s not a memory that came to mind some days ago as I tore off the scrap of white paper labelled the ‘31st of January’ from the quote calendar and found myself in an immediate state of glee as I read ‘Lá Fhéile Bríde’ and the big number 2 in bold red lettering.

At that moment, a flashback came to mind from a few years ago. Perhaps it was the fact that January was still in mind that it bounced into my brain, but nonetheless, it’s worth a trip down memory lane considering only weeks ago I shared with you how 80% of New Year`s Resolutions fail by the beginning of the month of February – http://www.theeye.news/2017/12/31/new-years-resolutions-fail-by-february

Perhaps this little recall will emphasis why for many this is.

The conversation occurred when I received a phone call at the beginning of February inquiring about exercise classes that I was running in an up-market exercise studio I owned. The class I had on, was and still is, unique to Ireland. It made ripples beyond the city and county and many people’s curiosity was whetted as they were eager to try it and seek it’s advertised benefits of well-being and overall physical fitness.

A female caller said:  Hi, I am just inquiring about your class? 

Me: Yes, there are places free, do you want to know the times and the prices or can I help you with any other information you`d like to know about it?

Female Caller: Yes, it's just I heard it's great for getting fit and losing weight, is this true?

Me: Yes, it is a fantastic cardiovascular workout and many people have reported losing lots of weight once they attend these classes regularly and make other alterations to their lifestyle also.

Female Caller:  Great, so will I drop a stone in weight by the 14th of February if I take the class?

Me: I'm sorry - I've never seen you, I don't know your weight, your body type, or anything about you. I can't guarantee this will happen within 2 weeks but if you attend the class intensely until then and eat sensibly I`m sure you will improve your physique in some ways

Female Caller:  You see, I have bought a dress and I want to fit into it for the night of the 14th

The conversation petered out as I supplied her with the rudimentary information that anyone would give any enquirer to any type of health and fitness class, such as the class times, prices, and so on.  She was a very pleasant person and we bid farewell as she decided that she needed something with a greater degree of certainty where she could be guaranteed her set goal of fitting into her new dress within 2 weeks.

Although we are now into month number 2 of the year and perhaps for many of us our New Years’ Resolutions have been broken, that still doesn’t mean that we can’t pick today as being our day to change, or improve, any aspect of our life. That said, we need to be realistic with our goals and not expect unscientific, unhealthy or unbelievable things to happen all of the time. Once we realise that we are intent on changing for the better, we will. It’s just a matter of time.

The endeavour should be to improve ourselves – for ourselves – over time. For the right things happen to us when we change what we can and in the same way, the right people are around us once they accept us for who we truly are.  If we choose to change because changing ourselves means fitting into a smaller dress size, sure – it may impress someone, but, unless we are happy in that smaller vision of our selves then it won’t be a change that will last or even make us happy inside.

About the Author

Conor Hogan
As a native Galwegian, Conor Hogan teaches and consults across the areas of education, well-being and health while also researching human behaviour for his PhD at NUI Galway. After winning regional and national leadership awards, he blogged and co-authored a book on Mental Health for Millennials. He tells us he will endeavour to enrapture the glint of the Galway Eye 🙂 You can find out more about Conor at https://www.docconor.com